One of my clients who signed-up to work with me recently has been experiencing fleeting, but no less terrifying dips into what they can only describe as a feeling of ‘existential doom.’
They’ll be going about their day, busy and up to their eye-balls in it, and then, BAM, a rolling, completely unexpected mood-swing dumps them in a mire of unanswerable questions:
What the *blip* is this all about…?
What the hell has happened to my life..?
I feel like I’ve lost part of myself..!
Who am I..? I don’t even know anymore!
Am I even doing what I’m meant to be doing?
Am I with the right person?
Have I let the right person get away?
Holy dung-balls I actually think I’m an abject failure…
Does this, or has this, ever happen to you..? Are you ever blind-sided by a gripping ‘mood’ out-of-no-where, flinging existential arrows at your very core?
If so – congratulations. You’ve successfully passed Go into the Humanoid Club; a place where humans like you and I hang-out, together with our wildly varying spectrum of human sentiment.
Being GRIPPED by a sense of existential crisis happens.
Questions about your very existence, where you wonder what the chicken-brains it’s-all-about-anyway is often one of my favourite spaces to work with people. Because it means we’re on the path for something more. We’re open to the big questions. We’re ready to look beyond the material and the physical and start shooting philosophy with stardust and Spirit and physics of the quantum kind.
But I digress.
Because what I really wanted to cover is this:
Occasional bouts of Existential Crisis is normal and par for the course.
DAILY bouts of being gripped by a terrifying sense of doom or meaninglessness can point to something else altogether. You may be experiencing something closer to a transient mood disorder, or a slight imbalance in those fickle dancers known as neurotransmitters.
If you’re experiencing plummeting mood drops more regularly than not the best and first place is to start with your trusted GP. But in the meantime, we’ve all got to ‘deal’, you know..? So my new client and I had a chat about some other stop-gaps they plan to cracking-on…
1) Vitamin D dose me up!
This a big one for FIFO workers and those who do long hours of shift work. How much sunlight are you getting each day..? Missing out on light beams plays wickets with your brains. Cut your neurotransmitters some slack, schedule a couple of breaks in your day, and get out to worship that sun for a minute or two…
2) Compound concoctions…
Are you getting your core mineral and vitamin dose per day? If you’re hell-busy and eating on the run, getting the compounds necessary to keep your moods juicy and your body vibrant is like trying to dive with a hole in your snorkel. Impossible. I used to firmly believe I could get all my minerals and vitamins through my food choices alone, but having trialled both methods, I’m now a stickler for taking quality supplements (while still attempting to eat like a Queen most days..). They’ve been a game-changer, and help keep the equilibrium, equal…
3) Borrow perspective
When you’re feeling really out to sea, finding wind to fill your sail can be an overwhelming task. At these times, loan perspective from someone you trust. Have a yarn. Commit to seeing things for what they are; don’t over-exaggerate your situation by painting things to be worse than they are, and don’t deny your experience by ignoring things altogether. See your circumstances as they stand, and in the process, search for your coveted sense of humour again. Brevity of Spirit leads you out of the labyrinth far more quickly than getting stuck on the thought-carousel…
4) Get physical
Your body? It’s magnificently, wondrously, Yours. Use your muscle, sinew and heart to full effect. Hug. Hand-hold. Kiss. Run. Walk. Swim. Mechanise the innate healing system of your body by getting somatic fulfilment; initiate contact with your beloveds. Kick-start your mood again with sweaty exertion.
5) Trust in Time
Whatever it is you’re going through right now, trust that this too shall pass. Time is grabbing hold of this moment even as we breathe, dragging it’s cloak tails along with it, folding away these scents, these sounds and these, at-times, painful nuances into the ether of memories. You have what it takes to get through this. Grit your teeth if you must. Trust in the Sun. Hold onto to those who love you fiercely, the ones who have your back, through and beyond this lifetime…
Crisis comes and goes. The BIG Questions rise and dissolve. But you..? You’ve survived all of this before, and more. You, you Resplendent Humanoid you, have got this.
PS.. This discussion has got me thinking – so we’re going to have more pow-wow on the state of the ‘Existential Crisis’ – and what to do with it – next week… x
PPS.. What kind of work do I do with my clients..? Check out this link here for more information…