Have you got a project on-the-boiler that’s been heading more South than not lately..?
I’m talking: a new study commitment, passion project, get-fit-plan or business idea…
What messages are you receiving?
‘Cut your losses while you’re ahead.’
‘Start again next month.’
‘Maybe you’re not cut out for this.’
Our people (including ourselves!) are not always the best go-to when we’re trying to kick important goals. PARTICULARLY if they’ve never kicked the goal you’re aiming for.
People have a really hard time ‘seeing’ and ‘getting’ what they themselves have never experienced.
This is also true for ourselves – if we’re yet to taste what we’re hankering after, it can be really tricky to stay-on-track.
So. 4 tips.
I use these myself. Let me know if you’ve trialled a version of this yourself…
1) Don’t be a Doe-Doe. Use strategy
Telling ourselves to NEVER but NEVER give-up can actually be really unhelpful. And wasteful… of time, energy and money. If you’ve hit a wall with your project / business / goal… take a helicopter snap-shot of everything on your plate and decide which tasks are just not worth the effort (or at the very least, are not a priority). Instead, act on those areas that will yield the highest return for your sweat…
2) Count your resources
We’re talking love, emotions, cash and time here. Put your project down on paper and determine how many resources you have spare to deliver the goods. How much longer can your partner pick up the slack at home? How much physical and emotional energy do you feel like you have in reserve..? With all this in mind, how much time do you want to loan yourself to see this project through…?
3) Say Hi to Why…
If you’re going to go the distance, stuff your backpack with your favourite treat first. Except, not literally (though – packing chocolate never hurts). What I’m talking about is your WHY. Why did you even set your sights on this goal in the first place..? Your WHY has to be big and loud and important enough to call you forward, even when you’ve fallen face first in the mud and scratched your knees. Big Whys / Chocolate (whatever) are our sirens in the night that we return to whenever we’ve lost our way…
4) Use the throw-out pile..
When I clean out a wardrobe, I’ve got a ‘Keep Pile, Give-Away Pile, Throw-Away Pile, and ‘Why Did I Ever Even Buy That?! Pile.’ Anyhoo… I’ve discovered projects and goals can be much the same, and require a similar kind of sieving from time-to-time. Stand back and group your priorities into categories: ‘Brilliant Idea, Let-It-Go, Put-on-Hold, Throw-it-away.’ The Brilliant Idea category is your first go-to – it’s the one that you can action now and that will pay dividends in the longer term… the rest, well, the rest fall further down the list, and are pretty self-explanatory about what bin or basket they wind up in…
There. When everybody’s telling you to quit … well, give them the ol’ middle finger (expect, in your mind’s eye, not actually really) and try these four points instead.