I couldn’t find a favourite dress at first glance the other day, and immediately jumped to a terminal conclusion;
‘I must have left it hanging in a hotel cupboard while I was away.’
To further convince myself of this, I counted-off all the reasons to justify my assumption:
I’d unpacked ALL my luggage.
I couldn’t recall the dress going through the wash.
I hadn’t seen said dress since before I’d left.
So (feeling very disgruntled – because I REALLY like this dress) – I figured I’d left it behind.
And then? I caught myself:
‘Hang on smart-pants. You’re not REALLY LOOKING because you’ve already reached a conclusion.’
I peered back into the abyss that is my wardrobe, and, within less than a second, caught a glimpse of the pattern I was looking for.
Wedged between a crinkly shirt and a forgotten skirt… hung my favourite dress.
When I dropped the bias, I found what I was looking for.
This is true for the little stuff;
Felt pens (where are they when you need them..?!)
The knob of ginger you swore you bought but now can’t find…
But this is also true for the big, life-changing stuff;
We’re less likely to find ANY of these things, unless we’re open to looking for them.
The lady who carefully packs together your soft fruit and vegies, separate from the heavies, at your local grocers.
The neighbour who returns your wheelie bin from off the footpath because they noticed you get-in late.
The friend who shows-up with a pot of pumpkin soup because they know you and the kidlets have been sick.
Sometimes the world seems to sway so far one way; by busyness, by worries, by conflict, by sadness, that we cease to REALLY LOOK.
We stop seeing the smallest acts. Acts of integrity, of kindness, of love.
By being determined to FIND THEM, we help to tilt the sway the other way. We help to keep our Souls, along with our Neighbours, nourished.
We help each of us to find what it is we are all looking for.